"Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing..." Proverbs 31:30a
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Prince Charming V.S A Real Man
To me prince charming is a man who looks good on the outside but on the inside is full of lust and deciet and will only do a woman harm, he will promise you everything including changing his ways, but inside he just wants to use you and throw you out with the garbage. Is this the kind of man you have in mind to marry?
A real man is a man who sees the needs of others weaker than him and is able to compassionately fufill them or give it his best shot. He is kingly and gives his service as much as his orders. He is easily given to falling on his knees when he needs to talk to his LORD. He may fear many things but God is his comfort, shield and the giver of his strength and courage. He knows when to use his sword and when to put it away. He may not be able to give me the world, but he often talks with the Creator of the world and to me that is all that I need.
I would rather have the latter man than the first, wouldn't you?
Finding Romance in Christ
Many times throughout my life I have thought that one day this "perfect" man would come along and sweep me off my feet, we would never disagree, we would always be the "perfect couple". Now when I think back on those thoughts I want to slap myself silly. Really? I mean I was putting an awful lot of pressure on the man who is to one day be my husband. I hadn't planned on changing, so that meant he would be putting in all the effort while I took everything he gave.
I have since been given much more wisdom since then, although only a tiny bit compared to others. I have learned that in a marriage you have to give 100%, this sounds harsh to our human ears. But, did not our LORD do the same? He came and died for us giving up his life for ours, He gave 100%. Can we not do the same?
I think one thing that inspired me to write this post, are all the young girls out there who think the same way I did at such a young and impressionable age. I want them to realize that first of all we need to take our focus off of marriage. We girls tend to fantasize a lot and more often than not this can be as bad for us as pornography is for men. Constantly thinking about marriage can be detrimental.
For us as young ladies what we need to be doing is focusing on our relationship with Christ, serving our family and learning all we can from our parents. Only then can we truly be ready for marriage and from what I have seen and heard about courtships, is that it will come when your not looking for it. So quit looking for it.
I noticed a great change in my life when God asked me to give up the thought of courtship. Now don't get me wrong, I still believe that the LORD has a man for me, but I was always thinking about who or where he was or when it would all happen and I realized that instead of filling my head with scenerios about the future, I was able to be of a lot more use to my family, start my own business, and first and foremost be able to get closer to my LORD and Saviour Jesus Christ. When you give up the thing you "think" you want most in life, the LORD reveals the real treasure you had been looking for all along. God will bring your husband to you in His time, but be patient, don't wish time away, instead make it a useful learning period in your life.
I am not perfect, in fact I am far from it, Christ has brought me a long way in my journey. I am so glad that I don't have to fill my head with thoughts of a man or romance, for right now God is my only romance. I will gladly accept the right man, when He comes along...but know that I am not out "searching" for him. I am out among friends and family doing what God has asked of me. I do gladly and willingly await the day that I can have the wonderful name of "wife" to a Godly man. But, if that takes several more years I am ok with that and you should be too. Don't bo to quick to search for a Prince Charming, they are everywhere and easy to find, But waiting on a man of God to seek you out is the greatest treasure that can be found. I pray for all of you that you find your romance in Christ first and then you will be able to love your husband in a better manner than you ever could have before Christ.
Look to God and His Word and you will find real romance, you will learn how to really love your future husband by loving God first!
Amen Hallelujah sister! If only more young women could see this the way you do. If we spend too much time thinking about the day courtship or marriage might arrive, we have no opportunity to actually prepare for that day! Wonderfully put Elisha.
ReplyDeleteBria - Thank you so much, it's very encouraging to see like minded girls! I am loving learning how to be a wife and mother...and until the day actually comes that I meet the man God has intended for me I am not going to be focused on marriage.
ReplyDeleteI wish I could really instill this into some girls I know, but it's like talking to a brick wall, I am praying to ask God to tear down that stronghold that the devil has built up, so that they will understand the detriments of such a life.
BEWARE YOUNG MEN
ReplyDeleteProverbs 7:6-27
6 One day I was looking out my window 7 at some foolish teenagers and noticed one who had no sense at all. 8 He was walking through the marketplace and came to the corner where a certain woman lived. He then turned up the road that goes by her house. 9 The day was ending. The sun had set, and it was almost dark. 10 Suddenly, there she was in front of him, dressed like a prostitute. She had plans for him. 11 She was a wild and rebellious woman who would not stay at home. 12 She walked the streets, always looking for someone to trap. 13 She grabbed the young man and kissed him. Without shame, she looked him in the eye and said, 14 “I offered a fellowship offering today. I gave what I promised to give, 15 and I still have plenty of food left. So I came out to find you, and here you are! 16 I have clean sheets on my bed—special ones from Egypt. 17 My bed smells wonderful with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. 18 Come, let’s enjoy ourselves all night. We can make love until dawn. 19 My husband has gone on a business trip. 20 He took enough money for a long trip and won’t be home for two weeks.”
21 This is what the woman said to tempt the young man, and her smooth words tricked him. 22 He followed her, like a bull being led to the slaughter. He was like a deer walking into a trap, 23 where a hunter waits to shoot an arrow through its heart. The boy was like a bird flying into a net, never seeing the danger he was in.
24 Now, sons, listen to me. Pay attention to what I say. 25 Don’t let your heart lead you to an evil woman like that. Don’t go where she wants to lead you. 26 She has brought down some of the most powerful men; she has left many dead bodies in her path. 27 Her house is the place of death. The road to it leads straight to the grave.
A MAN OF SORROWS & ACQUAINTED WITH GRIEF
ReplyDeleteGreetings in the Name of Jesus Christ,
My sister Clare is dying of Cancer. She has about 6 months to live. She is only 58 years of age. We lost my sister Anne in 1947. She was burnt to death in an accident in our home. She was 4. We lost our mother to Cancer in 1971. She was only 56. My Dad was next! He died in 1975 from heart failure. He was 65. My brother Patrick was a victim of a Hit & Run in 1981. He suffered severe head injuries. He spent 25 years in a psychiatric hospital and died in 2006. He was 64. My sister Breda died a few months before Patrick. She was found dead in her flat in London. She was 66. My sister Marie was diagnosed Cancer of the Lung in 2007 and was dead in 3 months. She was 68. My brother Aidan committed suicide in 2008. He was depressed from all the sibling deaths and couldn't take it anymore. Aidan was born in 1947, the year Anne died. He was 61. I was struck down with Diabetes & Diabetic Neuropathy in both feet in 2009. I was also diagnosed with a severely damaged kidney resulting from medication I was prescribed. I felt like a modern day Job. And now I have to prepare myself for my sister's death in 6 months time. I am 61 and only by the Grace of God; I don't know how I keep going. Pray for me!