Friday, May 13, 2011

Prince Charming VS A Real Man & Finding Romance in Christ

"Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing..." Proverbs 31:30a

Who Will You Choose?

I have been thinking on this post for a long while, but it seemed like every time I wanted to write it I would get interrupted. Since I have had a while to think on this I hope that it will be more than just a "rant" (which I sometimes do) or an educational post, I want this to come from the Holy Spirit, I believe He layed it on my heart to write and so here I am.
Prince Charming V.S A Real Man
To me prince charming is a man who looks good on the outside but on the inside is full of lust and deciet and will only do a woman harm, he will promise you everything including changing his ways, but inside he just wants to use you and throw you out with the garbage. Is this the kind of man  you have in mind to marry?

A real man is a man who sees the needs of others weaker than him and is able to compassionately fufill them or give it his best shot. He is kingly and gives his service as much as his orders. He is easily given to falling on his knees when he needs to talk to his LORD. He may fear many things but God is his comfort, shield and the giver of his strength and courage. He knows when to use his sword and when to put it away. He may not be able to give me the world, but he often talks with the Creator of the world and to me that is all that I need.

I would rather have the latter man than the first, wouldn't you?

Finding Romance in Christ
Many times throughout my life I have thought that one day this "perfect" man would come along and sweep me off my feet, we would never disagree, we would always be the "perfect couple". Now when I think back on those thoughts I want to slap myself silly. Really? I mean I was putting an awful lot of pressure on the man who is to one day be my husband. I hadn't planned on changing, so that meant he would be putting in all the effort while I took everything he gave.

I have since been given much more wisdom since then, although only a tiny bit compared to others. I have learned that in a marriage you have to give 100%, this sounds harsh to our human ears. But, did not our LORD do the same? He came and died for us giving up his life for ours, He gave 100%. Can we not do the same?

I think one thing that inspired me to write this post, are all the young girls out there who think the same way I did at such a young and impressionable age. I want them to realize that first of all we need to take our focus off of marriage. We girls tend to fantasize a lot and more often than not this can be as bad for us as pornography is for men. Constantly thinking about marriage can be detrimental.

For us as young ladies what we need to be doing is focusing on our relationship with Christ, serving our family and learning all we can from our parents. Only then can we truly be ready for marriage and from what I have seen and heard about courtships, is that it will come when your not looking for it. So quit looking for it.

I noticed a great change in my life when God asked me to give up the thought of courtship. Now don't get me wrong, I still believe that the LORD has a man for me, but I was always thinking about who or where he was or when it would all happen and I realized that instead of filling my head with scenerios about the future, I was able to be of a lot more use to my family, start my own business, and first and foremost be able to get closer to my LORD and Saviour Jesus Christ. When you give up the thing you "think" you want most in life, the LORD reveals the real treasure you had been looking for all along. God will bring your husband to you in His time, but be patient, don't wish time away, instead make it a useful learning period in your life.

I am not perfect, in fact I am far from it, Christ has brought me a long way in my journey. I am so glad that I don't have to fill my head with thoughts of a man or romance, for right now God is my only romance. I will gladly accept the right man, when He comes along...but know that I am not out "searching" for him. I am out among friends and family doing what God has asked of me. I do gladly and willingly await the day that I can have the wonderful name of "wife" to a Godly man. But, if that takes several more years I am ok with that and you should be too. Don't bo to quick to search for a Prince Charming, they are everywhere and easy to find, But waiting on a man of God to seek you out is the greatest treasure that can be found. I pray for all of you that you find your romance in Christ first and then you will be able to love your husband in a better manner than you ever could have before Christ.

Look to God and His Word and you will find real romance, you will learn how to really love your future husband by loving God first!